Psychologists affirm that it is a mother, who determines an age when her child begins to eat with a spoon independently, as all matters of upbringing fall on her shoulders. Some babies could eat with a spoon even before 1 year old, whereas a baby of a too anxious mother could not eat by himself even at 2 years old. The result depends on the fact when parents allow their child to try eating at the table. And the earlier this happens, the better result will be for child.

Parental task is to support their babys pleasure while eating. A majority of children show a wish to eat with a spoon at 9-11 months, and, if parents encourage such independence of children, then, by 1,5 years the most persistent ones will be able to wield a spoon perfectly without any help.

Training for independent spoon-feeding begins at 6 months already, when a child tries to eat by himself, holding a cookie or cracker in his hand. Then at 8 months, when a baby can already sit confidently, you can seat him at the table in a childrens seat and give him a spoon. If you do not do this in time, then sometimes you can see a baby snatching a spoon from a mothers hand by himself, as he feels a necessity to learn eating by himself. A mother can miss this opportunity in time or treat it as whims during a meal. However, if such thing happens during next spoon-feeding, it is better to give this spoon to a baby, and take another one for yourself. The main is to keep a babys pleasure while the process of eating.

Some useful advices

Before each spoon-feeding fulfill a ritual of hands washing. Firstly, like any other adult member of a family, a baby also needs to wash his hands before having a meal. Secondly, this will dispose a baby to the process of eating.

It is better to buy unbreakable crockery with bright colored pictures for your baby. Put your babys food in a special plate. On no account put all food at once on the table, as you may distract your babys attention and he will begin requiring only what he wants.

Be ready that your baby will smear food firstly, after you give him a spoon, and then he will begin flapping the table and plate with a spoon. So, put a small apron on your baby for sure, and cover the floor with a bog oil-cloth.

If a baby throws a spoon on the floor, trying to eat with his hands do not rail at him. Probably, he wants to eat by himself, but a mate-spoon seems to be a wrecker for him it fails to bring food to the mouth, or throws food down the floor, or smears the food on the walls Of course, in such case, it is easier to have a meal without a spoon. And in several days, your baby will try taming his disobedient spoon, looking at his father.

A child quickly discovers that it is not enough yet just to pick up a spoon. He will need several weeks more to learn scooping food and other several weeks to bring food to his mouth, not overturning a spoon. It is clear that a baby gets tired of this difficult work, so he begins playing with food. In such case you should put away everything from table, leaving just several bits of meat on a plate, so that he will have something to experiment with.

Even if a child tries hard to eat with a spoon, he will dirty himself and everything around all the same. If you nip all such impulses in the bud, then he will not be able to learn anything for a long. So it is better to provide yourself with unbreakable crockery, patience and sense of humor and you will be glad seeing your babys new skills and abilities every day. Moreover, his intellectual development will be much more successful, if you do not constrain it with endless prohibitions.

Parental practical work

Our son Paul always liked eating properly. But once, before going for a walk in the afternoon, he began playing up, snatching a spoon out of my hands. Firstly, I was even angry with him, but, when I gave a spoon to my sonny and took another one for myself, I discovered that our 1,5 y.o. Paul tried to scoop a puree with a spoon by himself. Several unsuccessful attempts upset our baby a little, and he allowed us to spoon-feed him again. Since that time we allowed Paul to spoon-feed independently for a while, and then I finished spoon-feeding by myself. Little by little, time of freedom while having a meal increased, and quantity of food left in his plate reduced.

On his second birthday he coped with the holiday dinner by himself!

Stacey Minsky, New-York

Im growing my son by myself. Probably, that is why I always try to teach Benny to independence. Since he was 11 months, I seated him in his chair, put a plate with vegetable puree in front of him and gave him a spoon. Of course, little food came to my babys mouth, in general, the most part turned to be smeared on a chair, table, cloth But later I could spoon-feed him from other plate without any remonstrance.

Three moths later, my sister and her 3 y.o. daughter Michelle came to our place. In the morning, seeing my Benny sitting at childrens table and shoveling up porridge, he shouted: What a shame!!! Your one can eat by himself already, and we are still spoon-feeding our Michelle! But, after she seated her daughter at the table and gave her a spoon, she was surprised even more. Michelle saved her face and, taking a spoon, began eating breakfast, saying: Hum, he can eat by himself We also eat by ourselves in our kindergarten. Melanie Jameson, San-Francisco.