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Index » Self Management » Joy & Happiness
 

How Big is Your Fish Tank?

 

Its the simplest of math: Big fish tanks grow big fish; little fish tanks grow little fish....

"You can't catch fish unless you put your line in the water. You can't reach your goals if you don't try." ~ Kathy Seligman

As I was planning for one of my REAL Talk Forums, the fish tank metaphor came up in my thinking. I wanted to emphasize how people could keep their bigness and create a sabotage-proof life. I thought back to when I had a very beautiful 55 gallon aquarium. There was over 100 pounds of real gravel in the bottom and it was l ined with live plants. The fish, which included a mated pair of Jack Dempseys, grew to be quite large with the biggest fish being about eight inches long and another being about six inches. I fed them raw beef heart, and they loved it, as it helped to grow to this size. I would sit in front of my fish tank for hours just watching them...it was mesmerizing to say the least.

I also had a 20 gallon tank with four fish in it and the largest fish grew to be only about two inched long. They all ate the regular flake fish food. I would watch them as well, but my eyes would always go back to the big tank...all of which brings me to the question: How big is your fish tank?

Before you take this with any literal meaning, what I am really asking is: How big is the space that you live your life in? Is there anything that is restricting you from growing into your most bigness? Is there any chance that you have outgrown your old fish tank? Just how big is your life, and how big can it be?

As you are pondering those questions, read the following piece from Marianne Williamson:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others...from A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles.

Are you allowing your Light to shine as bright as it possibly can? A big fish tank grows big fish, and likewise, a big life allows for a big, bright Light to shine from you.

Some people I have met seem to be happy with their small fish tanks because they do not want to change. Their lives are comfortable, predictable and familiar...they like the status quo. That is their choice and their business, and I certainly do respect that.

There are other people, however, who are like snakes: Always shedding their old skin, expanding and growing ever larger. These are the people who always want one more gallon added to their fish tank. These are also the people who seem to shine the brightest Light. In fact, their Light is so bright that it actually illuminates the path for others.

Which one are you, and are you happy with your chosen path? Would you like a bigger fish tank and a brighter Light force? If so, then I encourage you to hang out with some big fish, bright Light people. We do tend to be influenced by our environments, so if you want more from your life, find those who have found the more of life and ask them how they have done it. Most people are happy to share their steps of success. After all, big fish and bright Lights cannot hide, and because of this, they usually enjoy sharing their bigness and their brightness.

The business of bigness and brightness...hmmm, sounds like a good book title...okay, Im off to my next project...can you see my Light getting brighter'?

Author: Ken Donaldson
 
Author Bio:

Ken Donaldson

Ken Donaldson, the REALationship Coach, has been based in Tampa Bay, Florida offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. He is a licensed mental health counselor; board certified as an addictions professional and clinical hypnotherapist; and certified as a master relationship coach. Ken is a graduate of the University of South Florida, the Institute for Life Coach Training and the Relationship Coaching Institute. He has been exclusively in private practice since 1993.

Ken is the author of the new breakthrough life and relationship success book Marry YourSelf First! Saying ?I Do? to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. The material in this book is a result of Donaldson?s 15+ years of clinical counseling and coaching with thousands of individuals and couples. In this book, he reveals what he has discovered as the 20 core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose. When these principles are applied to your life you can overcome self-limiting patterns and create abundant happiness, fulfillment and success in your life and relationships.

Donaldson?s primary message from this book is to ?Master Your Life and Your Relationships!? Purchasers of this book are eligible for free coaching and educational programs to support and promote optimal growth and success.

Ken founded the REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first.

Included are the monthly Saturday Series workshops and the REAL Talk Forums. These programs are for couples and individuals alike, and help the participants live the most passionate and balanced lives possible.

He also facilitates the Marry YourSelf First program that assists singles to have more successful relationships and more satisfying lives. The graduates of this program leave with a clear vision of who they are, what they want, and how to get it.

In addition, he offers the Partners for Life programs for both pre-committed and committed couples that provide the tools and resources to help couples create relationships that are both lasting and fulfilling. Couples report that they have deeper intimacy and more fun as a result of utilizing the tools from these programs.

Ken also offers education and training programs for businesses and community organizations on a variety of personal growth and business improvement topics.

 
 
 

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